"The One"

She's beautiful and your stomach jumps every time you see her. So you gather your courage and ask her out.
Is she THE ONE?

He's great. He's strong, he's smart, he's funny. He's not like any other guy you've ever met. Every time you see him you wonder,
Is he THE ONE?

We date for many different reasons. We want something fun to do on Friday night. We don't like to be alone. We find somebody we like and want to spend every free minute with them. But ultimately we date because we're looking for that person we want to marry.
But are they THE ONE?

Is there only one person who is ultimately meant for you? I'm NOT asking if after we get married we should stay married to that one person. What I'm asking is . . . while we're dating, are we in the process of searching through the masses in order to find THE ONE person we were meant to marry, or is it possible that there are lots of "ones" that we get to choose from?

THIS MONTH'S QUESTION IS: IS THERE ONLY ONE PERSON WHO IS MEANT FOR YOU TO MARRY, OR ARE THERE LOTS OF PEOPLE OUT THERE WITH SHOM YOU COULD FALL IN LOVE AND SHARE A HAPPY LIFE? IS THERE SUCH A THING AS THE ONE?

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I think that God has one person who would be great for only you, that you will one day meet and fall in love with and marry. But I also think you can find other people that you can marry who aren't exactly what God had in mind for you. Abbi, age 14

I do think there is such thing as the one. Everyone's out there in the world looking for a soul mate to share their life with. So yeah, there is such thing as the one. Alicia, age 13

In answer to your question "Yes" I do believe there is a such person as "THE ONE." I believe God creates you for one specific mate and leads you to that person in His timing. I don't believe you should date every person who asks you out, or every person who you think is cute to try to find the "perfect someone." I think you should wait on God's timing even if it's not your own. Kristin, age 15

I believe that there are several different people that you could live your life with and be extremely happy and have a great relationship with. I do believe that there is only one person out there that you could live your life with and have the perfect relationship. I think that the chances are very slim, though, that you would find that one special person to share your life with. I believe that once you get married you will, in most cases, think that you married "the one" or the right person for you. Jennifer, age 13

I think there is always someone out there for everyone and no matter if you are ugly or fat or pretty and built I think God intended us to get married and have children to pass on God's word to our children and they can pass it on to others also. Jessica, age 15

I think that there really is "THE ONE," because God has already chosen for you the one you should marry. However, I think if you somehow pass this one up, that things will still work out fine, and you will still find the person of your life to marry (as long as you are in good standing with God). God is never taken by surprise. Follow His directions and seek His will and His marvelous plan for your life will take place. Luke, age 17

I think that God has one person set aside for you. But it's your choice to choose who you want to be with so yea I think that there is such thing as The ONE. I think that God will tell you when you meet the right person. Brandy, age 15

I think there a thing as the one. We as humans do not know who is our one, but God does. So we just have to follow God's plan for us an we will find that one for us. Bethany, age 14

I don't think that there is just one person for everyone. It is shown when people get divorced or their spouse dies and then remarry. I think that you can fall in love with anyone and that God puts that person or persons in your path. Love isn't something that just happens right then, love is something that a person has to work on and someone can chose to or not to love someone. I think that I could walk up to almost any one and get to know them well enough that we could fall in love . . . over all I think that there are multiple people that could be "The One" for everyone, and that it is who the person chooses to be the one. Matthew, age 16

I think that there are a lot of people out there for you to fall in love with. Everyone changes, mind and body. One day you could be in love with someone, and than they will change. You won't see eye to eye with him so you will leave him. Than maybe a month after you will change and than you will find another person that you like. Sometimes it really isn't the person that you think you are in love with. It really deep down is you. Yourself . . . Until you look at that person from another person's perspective then you will never know if you are right or wrong. It is also good to know the person you think you are in love with for a long time. That way you know who they are and what they are like. Sandie, age 14

Well I do think that there is someone out there that God wants me to be with. And no matter where I go in life 'The One' is gonna be a major milestone in my life. And I know for a fact that I WILL meet up with him because when God makes up his mind, he REALLY makes up his mind. So when I find 'The One' I intend to stay with him "until death do's us part". Anonymous

I think that there is only one person because (I'm not sure if it says this in the bible or not) but there is one person meant for each of us because if there were two people meant for us then we would be allowed to have two husbands/wives. Or we would divorce. But there is only one person meant for you because when you met that ONE person you just supposed to know. Anonymous

I believe that there are many people you could fall in love with. It is possible for someone to mistake that love for "the love" but there is only ONE person that is your soul mate and ONE person you are meant to marry. God has a plan for you life. He has known since before you were even born who you would marry. God will lead you to this "right" person. But if you are out of his will and living your life for yourself than you will probably marry whoever you want to marry and it not really be the "right" person. So I do believe there is only ONE right person, it's just a matter of if we are in control of our lives or if God is in control of our lives that we marry the right person. Stephanie, age 16

I think that there is that Mr. Right out there somewhere for you. But you just can't wait all you life trying to find him!! What if you never find him? You will wake up one morning when you are old and find out that you wasted all your life trying to find the perfect one and then you never found him. There are other fish out in the sea, there is a big sea! Don't waste all of your life trying to find just one! Jaimie, age 13

I think that there is that one guy/girl out there for you that God has created for you, and I think there is only one mate for you. God knows what you desire in your mate and so he is creating him just for you. I think you should pray that GOD would make it evident to you, whom you will marry. You should also be praying for your soul mate everyday too, I believe. Afden, age 16

I think there is only one person that god wants you to be with and put him/ her on this earth for you cause God already has a plan for you, but it is fun to date. Lindsey, age 13

Yea I think there's the one for every one. If you let God take control and ask him to lead you to the right person then if he has plans to then he will. Matt, age 14

I think that there is more than one person out there in the world that you could spend the rest of your life with, but I also think that when you find that guy/girl that you really like and you are READY to get married that you need to go to GOD and pray and ask him: ''Is he/she the one I can spend the rest of my life with ?'' He may not say yes or no but he will help you decide for yourself. BreAnna, age 13

God always provides a way for us. And I think he made someone especially just for me. I don't think there are going to be millions of guys out there that I think I should marry and have to chose from, I think he makes it specific for us on who we should marry. Traci, age 13

There is definitely "The ONE". I mean love is a tricky thing you could definitely trick yourself into thinking that someone is the one and sure you could be happy with that person but I believe you can only be TRULY happy with the ONE person God has for you. Abby, age 15

I do not think there is a person you can call "the one." I think that there are just people that you can be with. No one is going to find that perfect person. There is no "one," there are just people. Erin, age 14 I think that there is only one person for you. I think that God has one person picked out for you to marry and when he knows you are ready, he will bring that person to you. Mady, age 13

I believe that God has made a special person for everyone, "The One". God already has in store for us someone special even when we are young and dating. When relationships don't work out I believe it is because its not meant to be. God has someone else for you. Charis, age 14

Is there really a true one? I think God has picked out a special person for everyone. But, I think that we can still search for the right person, and most likely find them. Brittney, age 13

I don't believe that there is one set person that you're meant to be with. I do believe once you choose one that you should stay with them. I believe that God wants us to be happy, and he gives us choices on who we want to be with. I believe that there are many guys out there, and it's up to me to find a good one that I'd like to spend the rest of my life with. Kuri, age 16

My best friend and I have spent years evolving a great philosophy. We say that there is a person that could be right for you and a person you are meant to be with. There are some guys who are so right for you but it might only work out if it was at another time or something. Then you have the guy who you are meant to be with, the one God tells you is THE ONE. I believe there's ONE out there for everyone and God will let you know who it is. Avoid dating people who just seem right. Jessie, age 15

I don't think there is specifically one for everybody. I mean, God chose us to be born out of thousands of possibilities and for there to be just one for each of us just doesn't seem logical, but then again, what does? And what if there is only one and something happens to them and they die? Do you live alone for the rest of your life?? Is there an understudy or something? And what if instead of you losing your "one" they lose you? Then what happens? I honestly think God gives us free will to fall in love with the people we chose. And God guides to the right "one" or "two" and probably gives us a choice. Or it might be different for everyone. Taylor, age 14

Saying that just one person will find you, and you will eventually marry that person and possibly have a family is just kinda freaky. But what if someone remains single for the rest of there life. So I guess the answer I have is no, there isn't one perfect person meant for you. What I'm saying is that, if God wants you to find someone, he'll let you. It may mot be the perfect person, you might not have a long marriage and end up getting divorced. Then get remarried. So there may not be one person perfect for you. Brian, age 17

I think God has one person in mind for you, and you will be happiest with that one person He has chosen for you. You may be happy with other people, but THE ONE will make your life the best it can be here on Earth. And, if they are truly the one for you they will be there for you through think and thin for better or for worse and have eyes only for you. Lindsay, age 15

I think that there are a bunch of people out there that I could marry and be happy with, but I know that God has one guy in mind that He wants me to marry. So, yes, there is such thing as the one. Becca, age 13

I definitely think that there is a certain person who we are destined to be married to by God. He chooses someone for us and hopefully we are all lucky enough to find them at any point in our lives, whether its early or later than we think. It's so amazing and also kind of reassuring I think to know that there's that one special person for you and no matter how alone you might feel you know they're out there, maybe feeling the exact same way, thinking of you. Becca, age 16

I think that God has one person for us. Everybody is so unique that I think that there is probably only one person that could put up with the other person for 10, 20, 30, 40, even 50 years. That's just my opinion. I'm sure that there's probably only one person that could put up with me for that long. Eric, age 15

I really thought about it and I think there are lots of ones but I think there's only one that's meant to last forever because all of you relationships help form your opinions about the opposite sex and make you more cautious or more outgoing, etc. I mean every relationship effects the following ones so I don't think there's just one because he might be the one now but not next year. So I think it's more about timing and what God has chosen for you than some written in the stars one and only. You marry the person you find at the right time and it's meant to be but all of your ones count. Danielle, age 15

I know there is only one. God said that he would send us someone- just like he did Adam. If God meant there to be more than one person for everyone, then there would be no point in getting married-right? When you get married it is supposed to be forever and when you cannot work out the problems in your marriage- I don't believe that you married "The RIGHT one" ya know? I think that dating is a wonderful experience if you treat it as what it really is . . . I truly believe that there is one person for me and one person only- if there is more than one- God didn't make one of the decisions- I did. Jennifer

There are plenty of people in life that you're going to have an attraction to and have a desire for, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they are the one . . . I do think that there is only one person meant for you to marry because Malachi 2:16 says that God hates divorce and if there was more than one you would have to divorce to get to the next person. Alexis, age 13

Personally, I think that early in life we have lots of "ones", ex. best friends, girlfriends, etc. It's possible to think that every time you go out with a member of the opposite sex you think they're "the one." I, for example, have found/ met a lot of girls that I think could be "the one" (it's never actually gone far or worked), but it's different for everyone. But be warned, you may be with the person that God hasn't planned for you. So choose wisely and have fun with it. Will, age 16

I do think that there is one person out there for you. You can date and date all you want, but usually there's just one person you know is THE ONE. That person may or may not feel the same way about you, but you'll get over it one day. Norma, age 13

I'm not sure if there is a "ONE" for everybody, but I do know that God chose who we're meant to be with, or whether we're not meant to be with anyone. We just need to remember is that God is in control. Stephanie, age 13

I believe that you are able to fall in love many times but only when you and your "THE ONE" are right with God will you meet that person or be with that person! Jordan, age 16

I think that God put someone on this earth for me and he created them especially for me. A person has to date a lot in order to find who is the one, but when you find them, it's an instant connection. Lauren, age 17

I think that God does have "the one" planned out for you! And I think that you have to be able to know what you're looking for in a person whom you want to date! But I think that you are not going to know your likes, dislikes, and things like that unless you do date to see if the person is "the one." Kristen

I think that there is the one... that God chose fore you. If that one happens to die, and it is in God's plan for you then their may be another. But some people do find the ONE and live with that person for the rest of their lives. It just all matters on what God has in store. Diane, age 16

For a long time I thought there was only one specific person in the whole world for me. God had picked out a man for me way back before I was even thought of, He would bring him to me and I would be happily married until forever. I am 21 years old now and after hearing many different opinions I am determined that God has more than one person out there that I could marry, I get to pick. BUT I also believe that there is one man who God would like for me to choose . . . kind of a cream of the crop. I have not been in any dating relationships and plan to stay that way until I find the man I feel God wants me to be with. Hayley, age 21

I guess God has one perfect person for you, but I don't think you'll ever find them. But he does give you a person that it suitable enough for you or even maybe a couple. Rae, age 17

I do believe there is "one special person" out there for each and every one of us. There may be many that you have feelings for, but when you do fall in love, you will have found that special person, and you will know. Kelly, age 17

I think there are lots of people out there and that you can have more than just one. Most people are lucky enough if they can find that special someone. I think that while you are dating you are looking at the person to see if they are THE ONE!! So if you are lucky you are like 1 out of 100. That is pretty cool. Madison, age 12

I do believe, that God has a special person, the One, for each of us if it is in His Will. I believe that if I continually pray about my future spouse and keep patience, then God will reveal The One in his perfect timing. I don't want to go out and have my heart broken and all countless times in order to fine The One. Why can't we trust God to bring us The One? Madeline, age 16

Well I think that there isn't such thing as THE ONE. I mean because you are in one country and there are a lot more countries out there. You might fall in love with someone at school but then maybe go to a different country and fall in love with someone there. They may both be the one but you don't know which one is right. God gave us plenty of people to love and all we have to do is choose. Meredith, age 12

I think that there is one person for everyone. God has that one person for you out there and it may take your whole life to find that one person or only a few months, but there is one person. I think it's God's plan for us to find that person when we have been through many different relationships. Jenna, age 14

I think that there is such a thing as the one. You could fall in love with a lot of girls and want to marry them and think you would be happy but there something different about the one. My best friend and I were talking about this once and we both came to the conclusion that God has one girl set out for us to marry and we just have to wait until God brings her into our lives. I figure if God has a plan for everything else in our lives why wouldn't He have a specific girl for us to marry in that plan? So if we pray for God's guidance He'll help us pass the time until that girl comes into our lives or help us wait for that girl to have God tell her that she's has met the one to. Sean, age 16

I do believe that there is a one. Maybe not like in the movies where it is a fairytale, but more like there's one for every time in your life. Weather that be for a short time or a lifetime you meet that person for some reason. So yeah there are more than one meant for us, but sometimes I think we choose the wrong one and that why so many people are getting divorced. They just chose the wrong one. Amanda, age 14

I think that there are many people on the earth that have the potential of being "the one." But I also think that God does have one specific person for us in His ultimate plan. It's when people stray away from Him and from their relationship with Him that they get confused about who "the one" is and end up marrying someone else. Dena, age 19

Yes I think there is only ONE person for you and God knows who it is. At this age we shouldn't be having boyfriends and girlfriends one after another, and if that is who God plans on us marrying then he will let us know. Jessica, age 14

I can only hope that there is only one. I'd hate to find someone I thought was "The One" then find another one just as good! There's only on out there for me, the trick is finding him. Meaghan, age 19

I personally think that there are several people out in the world to choose from. You could go around picking and choosing all you want, but I believe that ultimately, God has a plan for who you are to marry. That's why I believe when the others seem to 'break' your heart, I always think to myself, well hey, this one just may not be the one that God has planned for me. I think he has each and every one of us a person picked out of the opposite sex. So whether looking just for that ONE or sorting through the masses. He has a plan for you. Jordan, age 18

I believe that there is only ONE out there meant for each person. When we follow God's plan for us, He will lead us in the right direction in every aspect of life, including dating and marriage. While it may seem that there are different "ones" for us, depending on what choices we make, in the end, when we are in accordance with His plan, we will make the choice that will lead us to the One that He has for us...the one that will be our life partner: physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Jonathan, age 17

God gives us choices. There are lots of people you could marry or fall in love with. People do that all the time. Is there one that is meant for you specifically? No because God leaves it up to you. He gives you choices and you get to choose. Whether God approves of your choice or not is a different story. Maybe I'm wrong but if there is somewhere in the Bible that talks about there being only person meant for you I would like to know because I don't. Anonymous

I think that the answer to that question varies. I think it depends on who you are. I mean, God has a different plan for everyone. For some people I think it is quite possible that there is only "one" person meant for them and for other people I think it is quite possible that there are many people that they could fall in love and share a happy life. And I even think that sometimes, for whatever reason, people that God made a special "one" for, miss out on meeting that person. Jessica, age 17

I don't think that there is only one person intended for us. Dating is getting to know what kind of traits you like in a person, and how to resolve fights or other issues that come up. I think that with all the billions of people on this earth, that there is more than one person with the right traits and personality to "click" well enough with you for marriage, but who you end up actually marrying, if you do marry, depends a lot on circumstances. Who you meet, when you meet them, if you are single when you meet them, etc. I think that there is potential for a person to be happily married with several people. Daniel, age 18

We could marry a person and live happily ever after with them and there are many people out there that we could do this with. The dilemma is, God knows the right one for us. If we listen to his plan for us and surrender to his will then we will find that one person. If not, we could very well find someone that we could marry, fall in love with and have a happy life together. But it wouldn't be what god want of us. I think that we should follow what the bible says about dating: No sex before marriage, we should be able to see our selves marrying that person, and that they should be a Christian. Daniel, age 15

I think that God has a specific person for each of us that is a perfect fit (in other words "The One"). So when we are in the center of His will, I think we will find that One. However, I think that it is possible to find happily ever after with someone other than "The One." Basically, what I believe is that God chooses a mate for each of us and lets us decide whether we want to follow His plans to get to the best or weed through the crowd ourselves to find the person we think we want. Anonymous

I don't think there is only 'One.' I think in our mind when we are dating or just like someone we make them out to be the 'one'. We only see the good in them and when we think about what we want in someone they fit that, but when we move on from that person we see things that weren't right or things that we didn't like but just did not want to see. Jami, age16

I think that there is only one person that we all are meant to be with. We are all searching for our soul mates that we are supposed to be with. But, then again, how do you know if that person is your soul mate? Do you just know? I don't know. Danielle, age 17

I think there is only one person out there for everyone. It's a person that no one else can compare to, a person that understands you better than you understand yourself, and a person that God seems to have especially made you for. I also think that some people don't ever get to meet their 'one' for whatever reason that may be. Janet, age 18

I think that there are many people that think that their boyfriends/girlfriends are THE ONE, but it may or may not be the person or kind of person that God would have liked them to marry. I also believe that people have choices on who they want to be THE ONE. Cassidy, age 13

I think God created one person for every person and when you are ready God will put that person in your life and all that you have to keep your eyes and your heart open to what God is saying and make your move so to speak. Sessmins, age 18

I most definitely believe that there is only ONE person out there for everyone. Sure, you might meet someone, and they might be absolutely great, you could get married, and be in love, etc, but deep down, something isn't right. Jennie, age 16

I believe there is only person for you to marry. If God has a perfect plan for every aspect of your life, then it would make sense that he has that part of your life perfectly planned out as well. Dating is a way to find out what characteristics in other people are compatible with your own and also a way to learn how to deal with relationships so that you are better prepared to deal with marriage. Jessica, age 16

I think there is such person as the one but you do need to date around to find them. If you know right off they aren't, don't get into the relationship cause most of the time it doesn't turn out pretty and if you really think you have chosen the one really get to know them first! Brittney, age 15

First off I think that you can love many people, falling in love is a different thing but falling into lust is another. And I think that that's where people get mixed up . . . but mainly I'm not sure about "the one". How are we ever to know? I mean you can fall completely in love with someone inside and out and feel that you could never be separated but then something happens and you break up . . . It's so confusing because you have no idea what the future holds and what day or experience God will mold for you. I would say that there is a "the one" for everyone but I'm not excluding others that might've been so as well. Betsy, age 15

Yes I believe when you meet the special person you will know and they are meant for you. I believe GOD gives us our One person so we can have support, love, and someone to be there for us. I believe also there is One man that is right for all of us and that we should be committed to him and him alone. If there was more than One person for each of us then I believe this world would be more crazy than it already is. Christine, age 16

I think God has someone out there for everyone. I do believe that God will lead you to THE ONE. God has a plan to carry out and he had that plan before we were even born. In that plan of his I believe he decides who THE ONE is. Of course who knows. It could change. Rachel, age 15

I don't think there is only one person who you could share the rest of your life with. Some people could marry anyone and love them for who they are and be faithful to them. But I think that GOD knows the right person who would fit in his plan for us and if we spend time with him he will guide us to the ONE who he thinks is suitable for us. Heather , age 15

I think that God made someone just for you, and that there is only one person that you can love totally, completely, and truthfully and be happy with for the rest of your life. Jessica, age 13

Initially, I thought, of course there's such thing as "the one." I mean, God has it all planned out for us . . . I guess it's possible that there are many people out there that you could fall in love with and live happily ever after. Maybe, there really is just "the one" for you. I think it can be either way for each and every person. It just depends on what God has in store. And if you listen to him about what he thinks about who your mate should be. Jessie, age 18

I believe that there is that certain someone for everybody. God has chosen the person who you are to spend the rest of your life with. I have this motto, "let the guys come to me, not me go to them", that way, God can set me up with the right guy. So, yeah, I believe that there is such a thing as THE ONE, and that when you let God "set you up", you'll never have to look for another guy/girl again. Kelsey, age 14

I think God has made it so there are many people who could be THE ONE and you will go through many people who aren't THE ONE and then find THE ONE person that is right for you out of the many people you may think are THE ONE. Kenzi, age 12

Well, I think that there are plenty of guys and girls to chose from in the world today and there is no "The One" guy or girl. Certain people look for certain things in someone they want to marry. So I don't think that there is a certain person for anyone. Anonymous

I think that there are lots of guys out there that I could marry, but ultimately, I think that God already has the one, right person picked out for me. Jeremiah 29:11 says that God knows the plans that he has for our lives. I think that that includes marriage, and who our future spouse will be. I'm looking forward to the day that I will get married and see how God planned everything out according to His will. Meredith, age 16

I think the question we should ask ourselves is not "is he/she the one"....it is..." am I looking for God in not only my life's purpose..but in my relationships also?" Courtney, age 16

don't think that at my age I should be looking for "the one" person I will marry. But, I do believe that everyone has someone out there. I figure through dating, you get to realize your strengths and weaknesses in relationships. And through dating, you will be lead to that one person who makes you feel all special and tingly inside. Katie, age 13

I am not in to the whole dating thing yet, but I think God has someone special for everyone. This person would sort of be The One. I don't think there are a lot of people that we would like to choose from. There is most likely only one person chosen by God for each person. Kristie, age 13

I think that there is only ONE person out there for me to marry. Of course I know I haven't found him yet but I know that God will send me someone that is the best of the best for me and I just need to be patient. But yes...there is only one person for everyone. Brittany, age 14

I think that the one does exist but the problem is finding her/him. Sometimes we are so happy with the person we're with we mistakenly think they are the one but they really aren't. I think it may seem that there are a lot of ones out there but they only make us happy on the surface, and "the one" will make us happy to the fullest and life will be complete. Billy, age 17

[I think] there is that one person that's better that the others, but you don't necessarily have to meet them to be happy because there are others out there almost as good. There could be flaws in that theory though. Emma, age 14

I know that a lot of people will go out searching their entire lives looking for "THE ONE", but I don't think that's what we are supposed to do. Here's how I see it, God has a plan for all of our lives. If we follow that plan, he's going to put a significant others in our path, and then... I dunno, butterflies will be flying by and little cartoon hearts will appear with little naked cherubs... (I haven't really experienced that in all my 16 years, so I don't really know what it's going to be like.) Anyway, what I'm saying, is that I think God has a significant other for all of us, if we just follow his plan for our lives, then we will come into contact with that person. Thus, there will be, a "ONE". The optimal "ONE". The best "ONE" that anyone could have possibly picked for us. "THE ONE" is out there. (cue X-files theme.) Griffin, age 16

I don't think there is just one person we are meant to marry. I think there are a few people out there for us. We just have to narrow the search down and find them. But I feel we have more than one "The One" that we get to choose who we want. Christa, age 17

I really do think there is that one special person. We should not really be concerned if we will find the right one. There is only one person who knows who is for who. Dating is like a practice run you get the idea and prepare for the future. I truly think the one is out there but it is not our goal to find them. Joshua, age 18

I don't necessarily think that there is one person who is THE ONE for everyone. I do however think that there are people that would be a better match for everyone. The reason why I think this is because no one can meet every person in the world so you can't really be sure if the person you marry or date is THE ONE. Cause to be sure you would have to meet every single person in the world and get to know them. Also the person you think is THE ONE for you may already be dating or be married to someone else. They may be THE one for you, but you might not be THE ONE for them. Erik, age 16

I truly think that God has a plan for us, and I believe that from the day we were born God has known who we were going to marry. So, yes I believe that there is only ONE person for us in the long run. But, I also think that maybe that person might not be the one, but then there has to be reasons behind it. But I truly think there is only "one" person. Denise, age 17

I think there is a "one." But by that I mean that God has someone for you, waiting for you to come along, but I also think that that person is the only one God has planned for your life. Kristen, age 17

I think that God has one person who he intends for us to marry. Sure, we as teens may see many guys/girls who make our stomachs do flips and hearts beat faster than the speed of light, but I think that if we truly pray for the "right one" God will show us exactly who he wants us to date and eventually marry. Brittny, age 14

I think there is one person out there for everyone. It just may take some longer to find that one special person. Some find the one when they are still in high school and marry their high school sweetheart. But some may go looking for the one until they are in their 30's. The people that have found the one need to be grateful because some people go though their whole life looking for the one, and if they find the one they may not have alot of time left. I hope everyone gets their chance to find their one. Jillian, age 14

I believe that God has "The One" you are supposed to be with picked out for everyone. I do think that there is only one person you are supposed to be with, and you just have to trust God to work everything out. Only God knows if [my boyfriend] is "The One" for me or not but just like in all other aspects of my life, I am putting my faith in Him and trusting His infinite wisdom. Katie, age 16

Yes, I think that by dating you're looking to see if that person is the one that you should be with for the rest of your life. I think that God chose the guy/girl that you marry, instead of us choosing. Without God it wouldn't work if we just think that we get to choose whichever guy/girl we want to. Crystal, age 14

I'd have to say yes there is only one. In life we may find many people that we think are that one, but I think sooner or later, we will discover that one person we can't live without. I think God has a special someone picked out for us and some day we will find them. I'm not saying that everyone who is married is with the right person, just saying that the right person is out there. Stephaine, age 15

I don't really think, that if we have a one, that we have to even look for them. If fate and God want us to be with that person then it wont matter, you'll find them anyway without really looking. Jake, age 15

I think there is always someone out there just right for everyone. I guess the real answer comes with time. Zach, age 13

I used to think there was only one person for everyone but now I'm not sure if that is really the case. People get divorced and remarried and are even happier than they were before and you would think that the first marriage was just a mistake right? But what if they had kids...they weren't a mistake. So maybe God meant for the original couple to be together but when they get away from God and get a divorce, then maybe He gives another "One." Hannah, age 16

I believe that there is more than one person who you could be happy with because you are very compatible. I do believe that God has a particular person lined up for you, and he knows already who you are going to marry. I believe that in God's perfect will there is that "one" but I think that if we don't end up marrying that "one" I believe that God turns it for the best. In Romans it says, "All things work together for good for those who love the Lord" I think that when you find the one God has in store for you you'll have a great peace about it. M. Kim, age 17

I don't really think that there is "the one." I believe that God gives us guidance and will lead us to another Christian if we ask for his help. I also, however, think that God allows us to make our own decisions; you know, free will and that type stuff. So, yes, I believe God has someone in mind for you, but it's your choice whether or not you listen to His opinion. Brandon 16

When I was in my teens I was for certain that there was just one girl that was perfect for me, and I for her. And when the time would come for me to meet her, I would know that without a doubt that she is the "one." . . . But, nonetheless, if I had given in to the idea of there being only one person right for me, then I would have never gotten to experience the love of other relationships. So, is there just "one" person destined for me?? God, I hope not, cause then it's too late for me. But if otherwise, then I've come to accept and even embrace the idea of living a life of celibacy. Casey, age 21

I believe that there is only one person meant for everyone, however there are a bunch of 'close but no cigar's' that might convince us to make the wrong choice. To put it short, God has only created ONE partner for every person, We may, however, get caught up in the moment and ruin Gods plans to bring us to our perfect mate. There in only ONE, but without following God's commands, guidance, and guidelines, we may never meet them and settle for the wrong person. Anthony, age 14

I do think there is someONE out there for each person. I think when God creates someone, He also makes someone else who would be compatible for that person. You could meet lots of different people and you might possibly think that you are in love with them, but I honestly think that there is really only one person you could be truly happy with. I believe that God will put you and your future mate in the right place at the right time so you can meet. Ashley, age 13



I think that there is just one person out there for everyone. We date and find people that will make us happy and somewhat complete, but I believe that there is only one person who can bring us joy and a total feeing of completeness. Kim, age 14

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